Emotional involvement with casual dating
After all, it can be difficult to learn anything beyond the superficialities and really get to know a person when you’re devoting your time elsewhere to the other people you’re casually dating.You might even find it hard to keep track of who said what!
However, if you know in your heart that you’re looking for a serious relationship and long-term commitment, casual dating may not be the best choice, as it can leave you feeling used, unhappy and unsatisfied.
This hangover stems from having a surge of bonding hormones pumping through your body without having anyone to bond to.
You may feel disappointment, sadness, anger, guilt and/or shame because a ton of oxytocin has been released without any kind of emotional connection present with the other person to be a container for it. I see a lot of pain and upset around feeling rejected after being so vulnerable, and anytime you get naked with someone, you are vulnerable!
You will probably be checking your phone incessantly the next day for a text with a winky face and find yourself distracted by thoughts of him. Our desire to connect emotionally is amplified when we have connected physically because of the hormonal change in our brain AND because we are emotional creatures -- which is something to be cherished, celebrated and respected!
When a woman engages in a casual sexual encounter and does not ask for what she wants, stop what she doesn't want or feels rejected in any way, she is likely to experience what I call a post-hookup hangover.
First, you may find it awkward, inappropriate or a bit unnatural to date many different people at once.