By posting a handful of photos, it's enough to pique his or her curiosity, while leaving them wanting to see more of you.Of these photos, the primary shot needs to be a close-up, smiling, wearing an outfit with a solid color such as red for women and blue for men. The world loves to watch an athlete or team go for the Gold!Athletes tend to have hot bodies and a posse of groupies.It will send the message that you take care of your mind and body and perhaps someone will ask you to join them at the yoga studio for a date. If you post anything less, a potential date might think you're not serious or might be hiding something.Anything more, I recommend posting it on your social media sites such as Instagram and Facebook.
While it's tempting to keep checking your email at night to see who else is interested in you, you might not be giving that special someone the chance you both deserve.
Which photos should you ditch on your dating profile? A man has a split second to decide whether to write you or take a pass. Viewing a long-winded profile is painful for someone to consider. I know you realize that talking about your ex is an off-limits subject, but for some reason it becomes the default conversation topic. Some singles take the time make long lists of what they don't want in a partner. One of my best pieces of advice is to ask a question in your profile. Here's an example: If he or she is into hiking, you just might get a hiking date put on the calendar. After a few dates, you should be able to determine if you'd like to consider a relationship with him or her.
Selfies don't make you look your best and posting a photo with your puppy dog will make him or her assume you sleep in bed with your four-legged friend. They'll assume there's no room for them in your life. If he can't figure out immediately which girl he'd be going on a date with, he'll move to the next profile. You'll have plenty of time to send emails back and forth and talk about interesting things on your dates. If there's a box to check to state that you're divorced, that should be enough. I've seen comments such as, "Don't contact me if you don't have a great job, live more that 20 miles away, don't want children or if you have any addictions." The only words your potential date will see is, "Don't contact me." If you do, I promise you, they won't. This gives a potential date the icebreaker on how to write to you. Don't sneak around with a hidden profile because one of his or her friends will bust you, and you won't be happy if you get dumped by someone you really liked.
Julie Spira is an author and media personality on the subjects of online dating, social media, mobile dating, and netiquette.
She wrote The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. While attending Ithaca College, Spira, then known as Julie Evans, became the first female on-air personality at WAAL-FM in Binghamton, NY.At the end of the digital day, the need to love and be loved is so powerful and universal.